Today I want to start by answering the question: What is sex positivity? To get us started let me give you a simple definition. Sex positivity is A philosophy that respects each person’s fundamental right to experience their version of enthusiastic and consensual pleasure. Notice that there are three aspects…

This blog originally appeared on Wet For Her I spent many years married to a cis man while discovering my queerness. During most of that time, we both dated other people while considering each other platonic primaries. It was an arrangement that worked well for us, but even so, it…

This Blog Originally Appeared on Wet For Her I’m talking to a woman who lives with her fiancé on a farm outside of Calgary. We’re strangers, she’s called for peer support because she doesn’t know who to talk to. She’s confiding that she doesn’t feel sexually attracted to her male…

This Blog Originally Appeared On Wet For Her If you’re openly queer, you’ve probably bought something with a rainbow on it at some point in your life. It can be exciting and validating to see stores carry goods meant for the LGBTQIA2S+ community. But who is behind the rainbow? There’s…

This Blog Originally Appeared On Wet For Her I was asked to write a blog on queer sex 101. I initially wrote about barriers, lube, toys, and tribbing. Then I deleted everything. Sex education has long been dominated by a sterilized heteronormative anatomical perspective that only focuses on abstinence, pregnancy…

Hello hello! I assume you’re reading this because someone in your life has recently come out to you. First, congratulations on being part of their journey! I hope you recognize that it’s an honor for this person to let you in and share their newly discovered identity with you. You…

Many of us have experienced sexual violence or consent violations. Creating security for survivors starts with acknowledging that everyone deserves to have consensual interactions. Sexual violence survivors will occasionally find themselves in situations where they are triggered (even with well-meaning pals). Past memories of hurt or violation flood the present…

Consent is the practice of choosing to engage or not. Consent applies to all touch, physical intimacy, and emotional intimacy. Consent is on-going and reversible. Understanding and respecting consent practices makes you a safe person to be around. Ignoring consent, manipulating pals, or coercing folks to engage with you makes…

Jealousy is unfortunately not unique to ethical non-monogamy. We all deal with it! However, we must acknowledge that folks who are in consensually alternative relationship structures (CARS) have more instances of being confronted with spicy emotions and uncomfortable situations. Fine I’ll say it: ENM generally makes us more jealous. Blame…